WELCOME TO FINGER FOOD

Your new home for pleasure, reflection and self-expression

Finger Food is having a rebirth. After a year of big personal changes, I’m finally ready to share the messy and uncomfortable truth behind my hiatus.

Hi, if we haven’t met before, My name is Stacey O, I’m a certified somatic intimacy and relationship coach, culinary artist and host of Finger Food Podcast. You can read more about me here. For seasoned Finger Foodies, I have some exciting news to share.

It’s been just over a year since my last podcast episode, and sharing this feels both edgy and vulnerable. After pouring my heart, soul and bank account into the Finger Food podcast, I lost my way a little. I became obsessed with pleasing everybody, striving for perfection and becoming the next Alex Cooper. Instead of focusing on creating a podcast to help others in their sex and relating lives, I fixated on how it was all being presented—securing the most impactful guests, landing big sponsorships and achieving rapid growth.

I ran before I could walk, and it caught up with me. The result? Multiple nervous breakdowns, smashed vintage plates, an empty bank account, strained relationships and ultimately me giving up on my community.

The reason I started this podcast was much simpler. I wanted a space to create—a space for expression and connection in the monotony of lockdown. I desired to help others feel understood and less alone, just as so many podcasts had done for me.

But somewhere along the way, I got sidetracked. I let my worth be dictated by the “success” of the project. I chased viral content, prioritised marketing over substance and forgot I was producing a podcast—not a video channel. Battling Instagram and TikTok algorithms, I was constantly getting posts removed or censored because I used words like “sex”, “masturbation” and “fetishisation” liberally. When my efforts weren’t getting the results I wanted, I let setbacks cloud my mission.

I fixated on the obstacles, letting the Meta empire and a few negative opinions drown out the positive feedback. I ignored the fact that over 50,000 listeners from 80 countries were tuning in. I dismissed messages from people sharing how much they loved the podcast or how it impacted them. Instead, I told myself it wasn’t good enough and almost threw the tea towel in all together.

Here’s the truth: I needed a reality check. “I had to go through this” to reconnect with my purpose. Be humble, sit down, etc.

Fast forward a year, I have now set up a life back in London and it feels like home. I finally have the space and energy to start again and re-align with my purpose, which has always been to empower others to connect with their inner wisdom and step into their pleasure and power—in the bedroom, the kitchen and beyond.

What to expect from Finger Food

Finger Food is more than just a newsletter and podcast; it's a sanctuary for exploring intimacy, connection, pleasure and personal growth. Each week, I bring you somatic practices, tools, recipes, personal stories and candid conversations designed to deepen your relationship with yourself and those around you.

As a certified somatic sex and relationship coach and culinary artist, I’ve long sought a space to share my insights freely—unfiltered, untamed, and without fear of trolling or censorship. Finger Food is that space: a safer haven for introspection, expression, and connection.

Here, we’ll explore the delicious intersections of body, mind and pleasure. I’m so excited to share it all with you right here.

• Free subscribers will receive one newsletter per month filled with stories, tools, practices, recipes, and insights.

• Paid subscribers will get weekly newsletters, x-rated, personal content, early access to live events, bonus recipes, Q&As, and exclusive interviews.

• The first 25 Founding Members will receive a 1-hour, 1:1 somatic coaching session with me on Zoom, plus all the paid subscriber content.

If you want a paid subscription but can’t manage it right now, reach out—we’ll figure something out.

Subscribe for full access to the newsletter and archives. Let’s go sweeties.

All my love and gratitude,
Stacey O

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