Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong People: A Conversation with Susie Kim
Former lawyer turned relationship coach, on navigating shame, desire and modern dating
This week on Finger Food, I’m thrilled to introduce you to one of my somatic coaches, friends, and all-around legends: Susie Kim.
There are people who talk about intimacy—and then there are those who embody it. Susie is firmly in the latter camp. A Sydney-based relationship and intimacy coach, Susie weaves together therapy, neo-tantra, temple arts and hard-earned wisdom into a signature style that’s as grounded as it is spiritually expansive. Former lawyer turned modern mystic, she doesn’t just help people find love—she teaches them how to become someone who can receive it and hold it.
Susie’s journey from criminal prosecutor to a full-blown love alchemist is one you’ll want to hear about. But this interview isn’t just a transformation tale—it’s a portal, and honestly a free therapy session for me—thanks Susie. Inside, we explore cultural shame, modern dating traps, why you keep catching feelings for emotionally unavailable hotties, open marriage misconceptions, neo-tantric healing, the controversy of ISTA (the “sex cult” I keep harping on about), and the same patterns Susie sees in her clients again and again.
We’re talking unfiltered, wisdom-packed realness from one of the most multidimensional practitioners I’ve worked with—someone who’s gone from TED talks to mainstream TV while still leading queer intimacy workshops and sexy speed dating nights.
Through it all, Susie brings that signature blend of honesty, insight, and lived experience that makes you feel both cracked open and gently held.
Whether you're on a healing journey, navigating the modern dating maze, or simply craving a deeper understanding of intimacy in all its forms—pull up a chair sweeties, this one’s for you.